Welcome back for faith walk friday #3. If you don't already, I encourage you to come back after a day or two and read the comments. I am always blessed and encouraged by what you share.
I hate to admit it but I've had to work myself up to this particular faith walk subject. God knew I would need a fresh testimony to share, so he gave me a couple of challenges to walk through this week just in case I was thinking of soft peddling this one. No such luck, so here goes...
on being married - I reread what I wrote on this particular subject in my first faith walk friday post and the comments that went with it. I have been married for twenty eight years and can honestly say that I still love my husband dearly (in fact, in many ways more that ever) and I believe with all my heart that he still loves me. My biggest fear at this point in our marriage is that we (I) don't give our marriage the proper attention that it needs and deserves. In the same way that my quiet time strengthens my relationship with Jesus, quiet time with my husband strengthens our bond. With all the busyness of life, alone time can easily (and often,) get pushed to the back burner.
Case in point...
On any given weekday I come home from work to the dog barking
loudly enthusiastically at my return, my three year old grandson ready for a hug and some grandma time, my husband transitioning from time at home to work time (he works nights) and the daily need to put a somewhat healthy dinner on the table. The first two happen by demand (theirs not mine) and the last is pretty much automatic pilot but the middle, my husband. can easily be overlooked and then before I know it he is gathering his things and heading out the door.
This week, after a heated discussion, (yes, we have those) he asked me where he ranked?
Ouch...my first response was to put on my Martyr's Mask (laced with a little indignant anger just for good measure) and rattle off a list of excuses. After he left for work and the house was quiet, God reminded me that my husband's place is just below Him...not after my grandson, or the dog or dinner. What does it say to him about our marriage that I give my most precious commodity, my time, to others before him?
What would it say to me?
I would be hurt and discouraged and would probably conclude that my spouse didn't need or appreciate me. The thought of him feeling this way both saddens and terrifies me. Saddens me because this is the farthest thing from the truth and terrifies me because I know my husband is a good man, one that any number of women would certainly make time for.
I can make lots of good excuses as to why my priorities are as they are and they might be justified as an exception but there is absolutely no reason for them to be the rule. I am a creative person who makes time for lots of extra curricular activities, I should be able to creatively juggle my schedule to make time to give the most important person in my life my full attention for a few moments when I get home from work. I could crate the dog, have my daughter keep my grandson upstairs for a little while and sit with my husband before heading to the kitchen. Sounds simple enough...
Am I alone here? Did I touch a nerve? I'd love to hear your thoughts.
Faithfully His, Patty